Wednesday 7 May 2014

It's been a blast. Introducing Bruises & Buttermilk

You may have been wondering what the heck I've been doing.  I have a secret. This will be my very last post on Invisible Bruises. 

Over the last year I have poured my heart our and I have received an unbelievable amount of support. But as I move on I become less attached to the story of my pain and more excited for the story of my life. That is why I have made the decision to let this blog grow, I would like to introduce you to Bruises and Buttermilk .

My life is about me now, and so should my blog. I will continue to write about gender equality, moving on, and begin to roll in my passions for baking (hence the buttermilk), exploring, and living. I will no longer write 'anonymously' and since I invested in my own domain hopefully it will be a bit more visually appealing. 

So please join me in my new project, I hope to see you at Bruises & Buttermilk

Bruisesandbuttermilk.com

Mel

Tuesday 28 January 2014

Be a Man- The Crisis of Masculinity



A couple posts ago I wrote about what I would have said to my husband if I saw him again.  I would ask him to be emotionally intelligent, to understand that emotions do not equate weakness. Lately I have been reading a lot about the crisis of masculinity. There are several movements world wide that seem to be addressing this. 

Domestic Violence is not a victim's fault; nothing she did could possibly deserve a violent retaliation. Domestic Violence, and the ending of domestic violence is as much of a man's issue as a woman's. 

Withholding emotion, dominating situations and asserting masculinity is not what this life is about, but it is what we are training our boys to believe. 

Below Tony Porter makes a call to men to step outside of the "Man Box", this seems to be a thread strung through most of the crisis against masculinity messaging.
 

Joe Ehrmann speaks about being told to be a man. Separating your heart from your head, using women to validate masculinity,  and measuring a man.  Ehrmann explores what "Be a Man" is doing to us and what "Being a Man Person" is actually about. Watch the entire thing- trust me.


And Finally one heck of a response to "Man Up"