Trust has always been easy for me. You wouldn't suspect that.
I believe that people are inherently good, that there is a fine layer that separates what makes us bad people and the good we are all made from.
I have always believed that if you focus on understanding the person, forgiving faults and believing that individuals are good, that they will be.
Here I am almost 6 months after finally having to give up believing that my Husband would stop hitting me. How do I feel?
My position hasn't changed.
I still believe that people are good. We are not born or created bad. I don't believe that there is anything inside of any one of us that is preventing us from being a kind, or decent human being.
Growing up I was taught to be compassionate...
Then, you forgive them...
Forgiving does not make what you went through right, or make negative actions or situations okay. By doing this you expel hatred or upset or disdain from your mind. You release yourself from the situation, it allows you to continue to grow and move on.
Perhaps, even transcend into understanding....
Wish the person well. Wish that somehow they find their way and rediscover the natural good within them.
And eventually learn to trust...
Even though you might be ready to trust, you must learn balance Trust with wisdom. You can mend a wound, but would you put yourself back in harms way again?
You will make mistakes too. Marry people you shouldn't, try too hard, eat too much desserts, buy expensive jeans. It's okay.
Does any of this mean you go back? No. Is what I went through okay? Not even a little.
But somewhere in my heart can I forgive my Husband for what he did to me and leave him in a distant memory? This I will need to do. One day.